So when a woman’s behavior looks strange to you, I want you to do one thing before you decide you understand it.
Ask what she’s trying to survive.
Ask who she’s trying to not be alone with.Ask what the light under the door means.
You might find that what looks like strangeness is the most rational response available to her situation. You might find that what looks like unusual behavior is actually someone trying to make herself impossible to reach by someone who has already decided to reach her.
Lucy came into my room every night not because she wanted what was in my bed.
She came because the alternative was being alone with someone standing on the other side of her door.
And when I finally understood that — when the shape of it was fully visible — the only thing that mattered was saying the two words she had needed to hear for months.
